Midlife, Mayhem and Merlot for your Book Club

After a life spent taking care of everyone else, one woman finally asks: what about me?

Joanne has always supported others — first her brother’s sports career, then her partner’s ambitions as an architect, and eventually the full-time demands of motherhood. But now, in her forties, she finds herself lost in the chaos of daily life… and one too many glasses of wine.

Determined to rewrite her own story, she makes a bold move that sends shockwaves through her family: her puzzled husband, the estranged brother she reconnects with, and her almost-eleven-year-old daughter — who actually thinks her mum’s new “fun-weird” side is kind of cool.

A feelgood novel about second chances, quiet rebellion, and the surprising joy of choosing yourself.

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Book Club Discussion Guide

Midlife, Mayhem & Merlot
By Nanda Roep

Introduction

In Midlife, Mayhem & Merlot, we follow [Main Character’s Name], a woman navigating the chaos of midlife, juggling career, family, and unexpected personal revelations—all with a glass of merlot in hand. With humor, heart, and a touch of bittersweet reality, this novel explores identity, relationships, and the search for fulfillment.

Whether you saw yourself in her struggles, laughed at her misadventures, or found deeper meaning in her journey, this discussion guide will help you explore the themes of the book with your group. Pour a glass of wine, settle in, and let’s dive into the conversation!

Discussion Questions

Characters & Relationships

1. Did you relate to [Main Character’s Name] and her experiences? Why or why not?
2. What role does friendship play in the novel? How do her relationships evolve throughout the story?
3. How does the protagonist’s view on aging and midlife change from the beginning to the end of the book?
4. Were there any side characters that stood out to you? Who was your favorite and why?

Themes & Reflections

1. The book blends humor with deeper topics like self-discovery and societal expectations. How did this balance affect your reading experience?
2. What are some of the pressures of midlife that the protagonist faces? Do you think these struggles are universal?
3. How does wine (especially merlot) function as a symbol in the story?
4. The novel touches on the idea of reinvention. Do you think it’s ever too late to change your life? Why or why not?

Plot & Writing Style

1. Were there any plot twists that surprised you? If so, which ones?
2. How did the writing style—humorous, sharp, and sometimes poignant—impact the way you connected with the story?
3. The book explores the idea of personal freedom. Do you think the protagonist ultimately finds it?
4. If this book were turned into a movie, who would you cast as the main character?

Personal Takeaways

1. Did this book change your perspective on anything in your own life? If so, how?
2. If you could ask the author one question about the book, what would it be?
3. Would you recommend this book to someone in your life? Why or why not?

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